Three myths of Mindfulness

1. If I were doing it right, my thoughts would stop.

This myth has singlehandedly derailed the practices of countless stress relief seekers. Thoughts are relentless. What matters is not their existence, but reactions to and feelings about them and the pressure that follows.

Mindfulness practices mitigate stress by teaching us to allow thoughts, sensations and emotions to exist without judging or holding on to them. Learning to attend to the present moment interrupts the minds tendency of rehashing the past and worrying about the future.

Practice tuning in to this moment by taking three breaths. Even small steps produce powerful changes in how we experience thoughts and feelings throughout the day.

2. I try to meditate every day, but I don’t feel any better.

Images of blissed out people near pristine waters with floating purple flowers are everywhere. Why wouldn’t it look easy to feel that way?

The desire for on demand results can make the practice of meditating or relaxing seem like a chore.

Why bother if the results aren’t immediate and tangible? The health benefits are well documented, the intangible perks, too numerous to mention here.

Ultimately, patiently suspending agendas, imagined outcomes and expectations of how the process should feel is crucial for moving toward feeling better.

Boost motivation by approaching an activity you already enjoy with a sense of curiosity. Begin by asking what today’s experience will be like. This question, when applied to anything including meditation, suspends prior knowledge in favor of open exploration. As with any new habit, time and practice are key.

3.The idea of sitting still is not for me.

Good news—you don’t have to! Active mindfulness practices can easily integrate into your routine.

For example, while walking outside, pay attention to five things you see, sense, smell, or hear. As thoughts inevitably pop up, redirect focus to the sensation of your feet on the ground, smell of spring flowers, or nearby scenery.

Before starting or ending work, practice focusing your attention on your breath as it enters and leaves the body. Notice and let go of any distractions, thoughts, or feelings about what’s next on the agenda. This intentional self-care act and helps create transitions between personal and professional time.

At home, practice mindful dishwashing by turning into the scent of the soap, feel and sound of the water versus any distractions that tug at your attention.

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